August 28, 2014 · 8:55 am
My family is going through a time of change at the moment—lots of new and exciting things going on, just as Matt and I are coming up on our five year anniversary tomorrow. (Five years is, like, legit marriage, I think. I feel old.)
Most importantly, Matt is starting a new job. After seven years as a lawyer, he’s leaving to join a start-up. There are lots of unknowns, but he is a smartie and has surrounded himself with smart people. He’s brave. I’m proud, and impressed.
I know plenty of people hate change, or are scared of it, but I love it. I get antsy and bored when things stay the same for too long. Who wants same-old routine when you can have something new and different. I often need a shot of change as a jump-start, to get the spring back in my step.
But! There’s always that moment right on the cusp of change that involves so. much. waiting. There’s a lot of wondering and hoping and predicting… and not a lot of knowing. What will our new normal look like? When will we have a sense of our new routine? What will our life look like in six months? A year? Five years??
Have you ever found yourself thinking “years from now I will look back at this very moment and think, ‘that’s when everything changed”? That’s how I’ve been feeling every day for the last two weeks.
And so…. I need to learn patience. It’s never ever ever been my strong suit. I’m the girl who snuck into the basement every year to check out her Hanukkah presents weeks in advance. (Sorry, mom.) And right now I’d like to do that same thing—get a quick sneak peek of what’s to come, then wrap it back up and wait for the big reveal. Turns out, life doesn’t work that way. (Who knew?)
So for now, I’m going about my days, trying to keep busy and distracted. But I’d do well to learn some good tricks for building better patience.
What’s your best trick for being patient, and staying calm in times of change?
August 12, 2014 · 9:07 am
It’s overwhelming admiration tinged with a bit of jealousy. (Let’s be real.)
Mindy Kaling. Duh.
Lena Dunham. I love this.
Tavi Gevinson. She’s 18, people.
Ann Friedman. Because this. And also this. And all of this.
Jo Goddard. So much style.
These are the ladies that inspire me on a daily basis. They also make me feel a little “what are you doing with your life, Tavi Gevinson is an Internet mogul at 18,” but mostly inspired.
Who is on your “love-hate-but-mostly-love” list?
August 7, 2014 · 8:43 am
A fun book offer on the blog today: Buy a copy of Jennifer, Gwyneth & Me, and I’ll send you a signed copy of MWF Seeking BFF for free. All you need to do is email me a receipt showing you picked up your copy of Jennifer, Gwyneth & Me from any fine book retailer, send me an address, and I’ll pop a copy in the mail. I can sign it to you, to your best friend who just moved to a new city, to the new friend you met at Barre Method, whoever. You tell me. (Not-so-fine print: Offer good for the month of August. Receipt should be dated 8/7 or later. Please put “book offer” in the subject line.)
If you’re not sure if you’d like Jennifer, Gwyneth & Me, you can check it out on Good Morning America, or read the review on the AP or The Huffington Post. Or the excerpt on The Daily Beast. Or any of the links on the press page. Critics have called it “People magazine meets The Happiness Project” (thanks critics!), so if you like either of those, JG&M is a safe bet. And if you’ve been meaning to pick up a copy, now’s the time!
And please do spread the word, nothing is more helpful to a book than word of mouth. And, anyway, free books for everyone.
August 5, 2014 · 11:02 am
Twenty-nine was a good year. My first book was published. And I had all those new friends I made while working on said book. And I was still in my 20s! There was less grey hair, I’m sure of it.
Turns out 29 might be as good as it gets, at least socially. According to a new British survey, 29-year olds have an average of 80 friends, whereas the average person only has 64 friends. The 29-year-old popularity surge is due to still being tight with your besties from college, but also having made work friends too. Like Hannah Montana, 29-year-olds are in the best of both worlds (RIP Disney Miley).
I get this. At twenty-nine I was still more interested in going out on a Saturday night than staying in and playing Trivial Pursuit. I met lots of new people, and made it my business to connect other potential friends — thereby widening my circle. I was mature enough to network, and young enough to stay up past 10:30. All the makings for popularity! (At 32, my best nights include board games, take out, and lights off by 10. Jealous much?)
I mean, look at who is 29: Keira Knightley! Chace Crawford! Cristin Milioti! Do I want to be friends with them? Yes, please.
So, all you 29-year-olds out there, soak in those friends beating down your door. These are the glory days.
See you on the flip.
At what age do you think you had the most friends?