Monthly Archives: October 2012

Have You Been On A Couple Blind Date?

Over the past year, I’ve met countless readers who have the same suggestion for MWF 2.0: Couple Dates!

When you’re married, finding couple friends is tough. I’ve written about this before–first, the difficulties of locking down couple friends, then why couple friends are so important. Matt and I have made most of our couple friends because one of us is friends with someone in the other couple, and then we decide to make it a foursome. We’ve also met some couples as a pair, at weddings or other functions.

But despite having gone on many, many, blind friend-dates, I’ve never been on a blind couple-date. I bring this up because a friend told me that she and her fiance were set up on a blind couple-date over the weekend. A mutual friend of the men in these couples wanted to introduce them, but he thought a man-date might be uncomfortable. So instead, he set them up as pairs.

Though I’ve never actually tried it, it seems to me that a blind couple date would be far more awkward than a blind friend-date, no matter your gender. Here’s why: There are going to be awkward moments at the beginning of a friend-date. Even if the date is a rousing success, during those first few moments there will be forced small talk or longer-than-ideal moments of silence. When it’s just the two of you, that’s not so awkward. It’s to be expected. But it’s hard to be your blind-date self in front of the person who knows you best in the world. If Matt and I went on a blind couple-date, I can just hear him saying to me on the car ride home, “why were you acting so weird at the beginning??”

Also, blind dates are hard enough when there are just two people. Imagine how much harder it will be to hit it off sight-unseen when there are four of you. At least on a normal couple date, the two who know each other can help break the ice. “Matt, you and Eric are both Red Sox fans” or “Rachel, you and Julia both love So You Think You Can Dance.” Or, at the very least ,the two who know each other will start off from a place of familiarity. It just seems so much easier that way.

Of course, I’ve been known to over-analyze things and make everything more awkward than it is. My friend in question said her blind couple-date was perfectly fine, and didn’t complain of any huge hiccups. So what do I know?

So what do you think? Ever been on a blind couple date? Think it would be harder than a blind friend date? Or easier?


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