When you make new friends, you may confront some unexpected hazards. Including: What if you don’t like your new friend’s friends?
This happens. A lot, I’m guessing. You meet someone at, say, the gym. You hang out at spin class week after week, eventually building up to post-bike brunch or pre-class stretch. After even more time passes, you start meeting in the real world, for dinners or movie play dates. And then, when you’ve passed the official friends threshold, your new pal invites you out with the girls. You meet her posse out for drinks, maybe. And then, it hits you: You can’t stand her friends.
While your new friend is funny, the other girls are crass. While she is smart, they are know-it-alls. It’s so disappointing, the realization that your potential new group is littered with people you don’t want to spend time with.
No one is forcing you, of course. You have options. You can learn to love these girls. Or you can stick to the gym relationship. Or only see your new friend one-on-one. You might be forced to explain why you keep turning down girls night invitations though, which is awkward.
Personally, I’d try a little from column A and a little from column B. Avoid the friends when I can, suck it up when I can’t and try to smile and laugh in all the right places. It’s not a perfect solution, but it’s not a perfect world.
What would you do?