This past Saturday was my birthday. The big 3-0! I was so excited about it that I completely forgot to write a blog post on Friday. I don’t know what happened! I’ve never ever totally spaced like that before. It was extra annoying since I missed the opportunity for my annual bday plea–but just FYI, it would have been: Grab your copy of MWF Seeking BFF. Or buy one for your best friend!
As you can probably tell, I love birthdays. Thirty feels like a big one. Adult.
Glamour magazine recently came out with the book Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know By The Times She’s 30. Some of them I feel good about (“A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family”) others I’m still working on (a cordless drill? really?). That such a list even exists gives me a bit of anxiety that I should have it all more together by now.
The most interesting aspects of the list, not surprisingly, are the recommendations of the friends you should have.
By the time 30 rolls around, you should have a good sense of your social network. At least according to Glamour. Says this book, by the time you turn 30, you should…
– have one friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry
– know how to confront a friend without ruining the friendship
– know where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing
– know who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally
I think, more or less, that I know these things. I have friends that make me laugh, friends that let me cry, and plenty that do both. I’ll admit that the second of these items, the whole confrontation bit, gives me some anxiety. Turning 30 did not magically make me more comfortable with confrontation, though I’m starting to believe in its possibilities more than I have in the past.
Tell me, which friends should every woman have by the time she’s 30? And what friendship lessons should a 30-year-old already have learned?