A lot has been made of a recent interview with Angelina Jolie in Marie Claire. In it, Angelina speaks of her relationships with other women. “‘I don’t really have girlfriends in movies, if you’ve noticed,’ she says, suggesting that the same is true off-camera, as well. She quickly corrects herself. ‘Well, I have a few girlfriends. I just … I stay home a lot. I’m just not very social. I don’t do a lot with them, and I’m very homebound.'”
She’s said it to Dr. Sanjay Gupta of CNN, too. When asked who she confides in, Angelina said “I don’t have a lot of friends I talk to. [Brad] is really the only person I talk to.”
It doesn’t particularly shock me that Angie might not have a ton of gal pals. When you’re drop-dead gorgeous, insanely successful, and Mrs. Brad Pitt, you can be, well, intimidating. And whether it’s fair or not (I’m thinking not), I’ve heard that it can be harder to make friends when you’re extraordinarily attractive. Women sometimes steer clear of their powerful or beautiful peers because it’s assumed they’re bitchy, or there’s jealousy. In Angelina’s case, there’s probably the added difficulty of strangers thinking they know you. When your life is played out in the pages of Us Weekly, people you’ve never met develop strong opinions of you as a person.
It’s sad, though. Angelina isn’t necessarily one to inspire pity (I’m sure plenty of us wouldn’t mind trading places with her), but hearing her say over and over that she has so few friends reminds me of something: It’s lonely at the top. And, also, even when it seems someone has it all—she might not.
It seems unfair that women might have to choose: powerful career, or friends? And looks aren’t even a choice. You’re either blessed with them or you’re not.
I have a friend who is stunning. Her mother once told me that she is grateful her daughter has such good friends now, because in high school the other girls assumed she wasn’t nice, or was out to steal their boyfriends. The mother didn’t explicitly say it was the case because her daughter was a beauty, but it was understood. And it seemed so crazy, because my friend is awesome! Not the type to swoop in and steal anyone’s man or engage in mean girl antics.
I’m not about to write here, thank God I’m not drop dead gorgeous! I work on looking my best just like anybody else. But who are we kidding? I don’t scare anyone off with my fierce Angelina face and body. And I’m glad for that. Making new friends is hard enough as it is, without people making early judgments of your personality based entirely upon your good looks or successful career.
Since we’re all anonymous here, sound off: Have you ever been written off because of good looks or extreme success? Do your looks prevent you from making friends? Or, admit it, do you steer clear of female friends who are just a little bit too pretty?