Today I’m getting my Thelma and Louise on. Well, if Thelma and Louise had five other cohorts and the story ended a bit differently.
The point is, I’m going on a road trip.
The cooking club ladies (who really should get a new name because we never cook anymore) are taking a weekend trip to Northern Michigan, where one of the girls’ parents have a home. It’s a six-hour drive, and we’ve prepped with lots of chips and music and back-and-forth emails about where we’ll stop along the way. Then, once we get there, it will be a weekend of wine, board games, pizza and late-night pillow talk.
It’s pretty hard for me to believe that at this time two years ago, I didn’t know any of these ladies. Now we’re taking our first group getaway. It certainly feels like a milestone, for us as gang and for me as a BFF-searcher. Travel = friendship.
And considering these are women I’ve only ever spent a couple of hours with at a time, we will probably return even more friendy. Or we’ll hate each other. But I’m going with the former.
I’ve been thinking about what the other friendship milestones are. I think the list looks something like this:
Milestone 1: First meeting.
Milestone 2: Getting together (dinner, lunch, movie) just the two of you.
Milestone 3: First friendly text message. (This does not include informational texts like “I’m here. In the brown sweater.” Or “Be there in 5.” These are the just-for-fun-because-I-thought-of-you-texts like “The new bar near us just opened!”)
Milestone 4: Party invite (birthday, holiday, house, whatever).
Milestone 5: Ongoing emailing about nothing in particular.
Milestone 6: Talk on the phone. Woah. Big time.
Milestone 7: Asking for a ride.
Milestone 8: Crying/Venting/Confiding.
Milestone 9: Travel.
Milestone 10: Daily or near-daily texting/phone-talking. See each other pretty much every weekend, or as close as possible.
And then you’re there. BFFship!
As you can see… The cooking club? We are on our way.
What do you think of my friendship milestone timeline? Is it accurate? Anything out of order? Did I miss anything?
Mark your calendars! New MWF Seeking BFF readings and signings are on the schedule. I’ll be traveling to Nashville, Miami, and Washington, DC in the coming months. But first, I’ll be at Open Books in Chicago next Thursday, March 22. It will be a reading with an eye toward introducing local readers looking for new friends. Please come! I’d love to see you there.