Happy New Year!
I’m one of those people who makes new year’s resolutions every other week (I talked about my “kicks”–no caffeine! do more yoga! drink more water!–over at Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project blog last week), but January 1st is the mother of all new habits. Or, I should say, attempts at new habits. Like most people, I’m better at making resolutions than keeping them.
This year my friend-related resolution is to make more phone calls. This applies to friends across the board. Now that I’ve made a decent amount of local pals, I’ve found that my contact with my long-distance friends, the ones I’ve known for decades, has been waning. So I want to try to make one phone call a day to an across-state-lines BFF.
I also need to call my local friends more. These days we do a lot of texting, which is a start, but I think voice-to-voice contact is necessary to really amp a relationship up to BFF levels. You’re more likely to bond and laugh when you have the benefit of voice and tone. And since I started out my search looking for someone I could call just to say hi, I should probably start calling people just to say hi. At least test the waters.
Finally, I need to make calls because I’m worried that I’m using Twitter as my telephone lately. Let me explain. Remember when I talked about Ann Patchett’s brilliant NY Times essay? The one in which she writes that best friends aren’t necessarily the ladies she shares deep, dark secrets with, but the ones she can call to say “Why do I have four jars of pickles in my fridge?” That’s just the kind of relationship I’ve been looking for, too. The problem is that, these days, if I found four jars of pickles in my refrigerator, I’d probably just tweet it: “Just found 4 jars of pickles in my fridge? Seriously. What is wrong with me?”
Twitter is such an easy medium for these kind of one-off thoughts that it has replaced the need to make that random phone call. But those calls are the stuff that BFFships are made of!
So there you have it. My resolution: Make more phone calls.
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