I’ve never watched According to Jim. Never in my life.
Until last night. The combination of my work procrastination and the fact that the reruns come on after Friends amounted to me on the couch in front of the Jim Belushi comedy. And I’m so glad it did.
The episode was about how Jim’s wife wants to take him to musicals and do other “friend activities” together because her BFF just had a baby. Jim, eager to get out of this new “pal” role—and to never see another Cats—takes on the task of finding his wife a gay best friend. “A guy who will do with her all the things I don’t want to do.”
Of course I loved everything about this concept. First of all, I always appreciate the recognition that your husband can’t necessarily fill the role of BFF. No one person can be everything, and that includes a husband. I adore mine, but if he were my only companion I wouldn’t have had anyone to see Harry Potter with me this weekend, or to keep me company for the Friday Night Lights finale (which I’ve now watched twice, by the way. Perfect). Matt’s not a fan of either (big mistake). Without pals, I would have no one for girl talk or celebrity gossip. And, as this According to Jim episode pointed out, when married women have other friends, everybody wins. She has someone for girl talk or musicals, and the husband gets out of girl talk and musicals. No brainer, right?
I was also quite enamored of the whole gay BFF theme of the show, as I want one. I have plenty of gay friends, but no Will Truman, that’s for sure. An old friend of mine who works in the gay rights advocacy field was in town last night. She has plenty of gay male BFFs and has sung the praises of this oh-so-special relationship.
So, just as Jim did for his wife, shouldn’t Matt be out courting my new BFF as I type? It could only benefit everyone. Just saying.
What do you think about the whole husband-should-be-BFF thing? Should your spouse be your best friend, hands down? Or do other people need to round out the social circle? And, do you have a gay BFF? I’d love to hear your take on that very special friendship.