This weekend I had one of those rare but perfect Saturdays where the day is completely your own and there is nothing on the schedule and you can just hang out. I actually can’t remember the last time this happened — it was so glorious. I ended up meeting a newish* friend for brunch, and we decided to do some shopping in the neighborhood. One of our stops was at MAC, the makeup store. I legit can’t remember the last time I went makeup shopping. Long enough that I had to admit to the saleslady that I don’t currently own a lipstick or an eyeshadow. I’ve been a blush and mascara kind of girl. So the salesgirl was doing my makeup to show me, you know, how lipstick works, and of course I couldn’t stop talking to my friend long enough for the poor lady to apply a simply Viva Glam II. It was driving her crazy.
And then the saleslady says to us: “Are you two, like, BFFs?”
My friend and I looked at each other, shared a silent laugh, and I declared a definitive “Yes.” I mean, we’re good friends. We haven’t known each other forever, and we each have people we see more often than each other, but for the purposes of this saleslady, the answer would surely be positive.
My friend laughed again and the saleslady said, “I thought so. I could totally tell.”
OMG! It’s so intense to ask two people that, don’t you think? What am I going to say “No, we’re FFs but not yet BFFs, but this lazy Saturday is certainly moving us in the right direction”? Or, “Eh, the jury’s still out”? Afterwards my friend and I agreed on the awkwardness of the question. What if it was our first date? What if one of us thought we were BFFs and the other didn’t? It’s like asking a guy and a girl if they are a couple. which basically never turns out well.
Luckily for m,e my friend and I are close enough that it wasn’t awkward, just silly. But it definitely reminded me of how far I’ve come on this search. Had the nice MAC saleslady said the same thing two years ago, I likely would have run home crying to Matt about how I have no friends. But Saturday, having that last-minute brunch and hang out day with a friend, I was reminded that I am continuing on the right path. BFFdom here I come!
Ever had one of those moments where a stranger asks a supposedly harmless question (“Oh, are you two dating?”) that feels totally intense and loaded when you try to answer? Ever had that moment with a friend?
* ”Newish” is defined, for the purposes of this blog, as anyone I have met since starting this blog and my search for a local BFF. Since we’ve known each other for more than two years now, this specific friendship isn’t really that new, but it bears pointing out that we met though my quest.